A WOMAN has revealed that she is sleeping with a married man and doesn’t see an issue with it.
The single woman explained that she has been continually having sex in bar bathrooms with the cheating man.
But whilst her friends are losing their minds and are making her feel like a monster, the confused woman explained that doesn’t know how she should feel.
Posting on social media, the anonymous woman shared her confession, on the r/adultery thread on Reddit.
Writing under the username @sassysades2, the woman titled her post ‘Sleeping with a married man.’
She then confessed: “So I work at a bar and we have obvious regulars who come in almost every day. Or quite often.
“There was this one we shall call him Menard. Menard came in, was kind, tipped well, and made conversation.
“I learned that he’s married and just recently had a baby. He added me on Facebook a few weeks later, which isn’t weird because a lot of the regulars at this bar do that.
“So I’m out drinking with a guy friend and Menard messages me and asks what’s up, he then proceeds to come to the bar we are at and he and I end up screwing in the bar bathroom.
“I have no idea where this even came from. The next day we start snapping and now for the past month we have been continually having sex.”
The Reddit user explained that not only is she having sex with this father, but she also meets up with him without bonking too.
She added: “We don’t talk about his wife, we do hang out without having sex, but it’s nothing emotional. Just like almost friends with benefits but he’s married.”
Confused on how to feel, she continued: “And all my close friends and family are just losing their minds at me.
“I guess I’m just lost as to if I should feel like I’m a terrible person.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“I like to believe I’m a good person who is genuine and caring and kind.
“But they are making me feel like a monster. Side note, I am single so I am not cheating on anyone personally.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users were left stunned by the woman’s admission and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts – but there was a clear divide.
One person said: “You sound proud of yourself. You may be single, and not have made vows to his wife, but a decent person would have stopped this before it went further.”
You’re certainly not a bad person. He’s the one that took vows right?
Reddit user
Another added: “You gotta know that if you tell enough people, you’re gonna get some negative feedback.”
A third commented: “I would say you’re not a bad person at all. It’s 100% in his power to not have sex with someone besides his wife.
“He made that decision as much as you did, except he’s got baggage, you don’t. You have nothing to feel bad about in my opinion.”
Whilst someone else penned: “You’re certainly not a bad person. He’s the one that took vows right?”